This fear often results in mature people being cast aside, put into homes and simply forgotten.Gervais argues that we do not talk about becoming old often enough, and in this lies the arrogance of humanity.
On the bright side, there are a growing number of events, and organisations which celebrate older gay men and women and who have or continue to tirelessly work in trying to break down the stigma and stereotypes that are often associated with mature gay men.Put simply, to be ageist or to hold prejudices against mature men is a waste of time.Being mature is a life stage which should be celebrated, it should be rejoiced and it should never be ignored.There is a special romance that exists within all long term relationships, and that’s regardless of the age difference between them.Often, this will see older men relegated to the stands, or limited to their own 'specialised' floats.
It’s a bizarre occurrence because there's a certain arrogance in the idea that whilst you're young, you're never going to get 'old', despite the idea that getting old and growing mature is a simple, and unavoidable, fact of life.
By the time you're no longer young, you've realised the things that you've ignored, missed out on, or simply just didn't pay attention to and by the time you acknowledge this then it's simply too late.
It's especially heart breaking to see this attitude when it is the social, charity and political work of older gay men and women which have seen societal shifts in the attitudes towards the Queer Community. There are a growing number of gay youth out there which acknowledge that age is just a number.
There are people who relish the idea of being in a relationship, whether love or sexual, with an older male.
These people adore the wisdom, the knowledge and the attitudes of these men and find comfort in that.
“[Men faced in this real life scenario] distanced themselves more from her, tended to rate her as less attractive, and showed less desire to exchange contact information or plan a date with her”.